Events

Divorce Mediation – Team demonstration

Posted on Oct 11, 2013

Divorce Mediation – Team demonstration

Linda Miller-deBerard, LCSW and Stacey Langenbahn, JD, President of Détente Mediation gave a presentation and demonstration of team mediation to the Academy of Professional Family Mediators at the yearly conference in Denver last week. The Academy is committed to helping families settle disputes in peaceful and innovative ways. There was much interest in the Détente model using a therapist and an attorney as co-mediators. The demonstration was an example of helping a family make decisions about a co-parenting issue that occurred 6 years post divorce. Emotional and legal issues for families are frequently intermingled when trying to raise children in two homes. It was an honor to be asked to share this unique co mediation technique to an esteemed group of professionals....

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Harville on Oprah’s Lifeclass

Posted on Nov 10, 2012

Harville on Oprah’s Lifeclass

Everyone needs validation — the experience that “we matter and make sense.” On Oprah’s Lifeclass, which aired last night on OWN, Oprah shows the affects of childhood on our adult relationships through a poignant clip of Harville working with a couple. Watch now: How Your Childhood Affects Your Adult Relationships For Oprah, Harville Hendrix was the best teacher of validation. Harville developed the Imago Theory, which is that you end up imaging in your adult relationship what you most need to heal from, whether physical or emotional wounds, received in childhood at the hands of your parents or caregivers. In 2006, Harville facilitated an Imago therapy session for Louie, who was abused as a child and was verbally, emotionally and physically abusing his...

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Free virtual Couples Conference

Posted on Oct 29, 2012

Free virtual Couples Conference

Harville and Helen are featured in two upcoming “virtual conferences” for couples and therapists to learn more from the comforts of home. Art of Love Relationship Summit: Starting Nov 1 Featuring Harville & Helen, Deepak Chopra, Dr. Helen Fisher, Marianne Williamson, Dr. John Gray and more. Did you know that one third of all couples are only considered ‘semi-happy?’ Most couples have resigned themselves to ambivalent, bland relationships full of unspoken secrets and unmet needs. But it doesn’t have to be that way! Learn from the relationship experts on the art of love. Starting November 1st, this online teleseminar event will feature Harville and Helen plus 20 other celebrated experts who have spent decades, proving and teaching the keys to rich, rewarding and lasting relationships. Hear from these experts discuss parenting, money, online infidelity, surviving betrayal, women as breadwinners, spicing up your romance, and so much more. Followers can attend the teleseries for free during 11 days of sessions.  After that, the entire series will be available for purchase.  ...

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Listen to Linda and Stacey on KLIF 570 AM

Posted on Sep 19, 2012

Listen to Linda and Stacey on KLIF 570 AM

If you know me, you know that I am committed to making marriages work. I don’t recommend divorce. I feel very strongly that the courtroom is not the place for families or Christians to handle their differences. That’s why I’m affiliated with Detente Collaborative Mediation.  ot only does it make sense to me as a therapist, smart money people are taking notice as well.  I’m proud to announce the following:   We are honored that Real Talk Texas has identified us as one of the top resources in our field! Please listen to KLIF Real Talk Texas 570 AM on Sunday, September 23 at noon or stream it live at IHeartRadio.com to hear Stacey Langenbahn and Linda Miller-deBerard talk about a safer, healthier way to separate or divorce, and save money and families with Détente Collaborative...

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Time To Connect With Your Spouse: Couples Dialogue Night

Posted on May 21, 2012

Time To Connect With Your Spouse: Couples Dialogue Night

I love working with couples. I’m blessed to see the miracle of couple hood daily. One of the most discouraging things I see is when couples tell me that the only time they talk is in my office. That’s sad because I know it is virtually impossible to have an intimate relationship with someone you never interact with. Sometimes couples don’t interact because there is too much pain and anger. If they are willing to show up and work on healing that can be fixed. The bigger challenge is: we just don’t have time. I often hear; when this project is done; or when the baby sleeps through the night; or when this child starts school; then we’ll have more time as a couple. Unfortunately that time never quite magically appears. Even couples with little conflict can disconnect and damage their marriage if they don’t make couples time happen. It’s been said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Not having enough time can be particularly difficult for Christian couples because we have church commitments to add to our list of important activities. In April I had the privilege of participating in “A New Way to Love” facilitated by Steven and Meredith Bell at White’s Chapel. This couples weekend taught basic communication skills for couples using a safe dialogue method. The feedback we got from the seminar was that being heard by your partner is an amazing experience and that learning to be a better listener would help deal with future issues. Our testimonials included: “Most beneficial weekend of our marriage!!” “This program benefits all couples at whatever stage you are in your marriage. It cultivates a communication of deep significant meaning. Great gift to each other” “A great time spent with my husband learning again what makes him thrive” So, the couples that attended learned some great skills. The question is still when do they take the time to practice and build the communication muscle? Steven and Meredith have decided to make that time available. With childcare! They are starting a Marriage Dialogue Night on May 16th from 6 to 7 pm. This will provide an opportunity for couples to have fellowship with other couples and private time with one another to have healthy communication. If you attended the seminar you know the skills. We hope you will come practice what you learned. The next Couples Dialogue night will be on June 20th at Whites Chapel. If you were unable to attend the seminar but would benefit from some uninterrupted time in a comfortable place just to talk and reconnect with your spouse we welcome you! The Bell’s and I will be available to teach you some communication tools that will serve you well not only in your marriage but with your children and any other human relationship. Couple hood is a miracle. It’s a miracle that God takes two opposite personalities from two different households and allows them to compliment one another. When you find a way to make that work it’s a true blessing. If your fortunate enough to experience that with Biblical direction alone, many congratulations. I think most marriages will benefit from adding an opportunity for time to connect to guidelines for eliminating negativity and truly understanding one another....

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