Marriage Counseling

Therapist Radio Show: Selecting a Therapist

Posted on Mar 20, 2017

Linda Miller deBerard-2 03 17 Therapist I’ve recently had the opportunity to do three radio shows and was interviewed by Muriel Donnelley at Empire broadcasting. In the first show, we talk about my evolution as a therapist. Including my belief that my practice is a ministry that brings me great blessings by seeing people have success in counseling. I also discuss how my faith helps me cope with difficult situations. Part of the conversation is about my early experience on a suicide crisis line and some of the things I do when I treat a suicidal client. I discuss why I integrate family members into the treatment of individuals and how this can be beneficial. I give tips to a caller about selecting a therapist and how my concierge service helps clients feel comfortable establishing a therapeutic relationship. I also discuss my belief that showing up for counseling even if your not sure the marriage can survive can often be beneficial because the worst that can happen is that a couple will learn healthy communication that will help with coparenting long term if the marriage does not survive....

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Radio Show Interview: Importance of Couples Therapy Training

Posted on Mar 6, 2017

Linda Miller deBerard- 1 20 17 Counseling In this interview with Michael David I discuss what makes me different as a counselor being my many years of experience. We discuss the importance of seeing a therapist with specialty training to work with couples and the reason it’s helpful to include your partner in treatment. We look at how a healthy relationship can bring you healing from childhood wounds. And we talk about how little training we get to help us become successful partners....

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Did You Mean to Hurt Me?

Posted on Aug 26, 2014

Did You Mean to Hurt Me?

A recent cartoon I read had a picture of a man and woman with the nervous looking man saying “If something I’ve said can be interpreted in two ways and one of those ways upsets you, I meant the other one”. In my work with couples, I frequently see someone hurt by their INTERPRETATION of something their partner said.  I’ve begun to ask the question “would it benefit your partner to say something hurtful to you?” Because I believe that smart people don’t intentionally cause conflict. If you keep that in mind the next time you are hurt by something your partner says it might help you not to react in anger or pain.  Instead try asking the question- Was it your INTENT to hurt me with that comment?  Allow your partner to explain their true intent.   You will come away learning more about one another and hopefully avoiding an...

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Putting God’s Love Into Your Marriage

Posted on Feb 7, 2014

Putting God’s Love Into Your Marriage

This is a great video that shows a couple in conflict. The message for Christian couples is a great one about making choices. I work with couples to teach them to “gift ” one another. A gift to your spouse is giving freely without expectations. As Christians we can also convoke ourselves that we are giving God what he wants by doing certain things. We then have expectations about what we deserve back. If we can get in touch with and appreciate the love God so freely gives us then learn to give that kind of love freely to our spouses, we will get closer to experiencing Gods love in our relationships. [youtube http://youtu.be/Fy2hFvbTHU4]...

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Depression in relationships

Posted on Feb 4, 2014

Depression in relationships

This is a wonderful analogy that describes symptoms of depression and how it can affect your life and relationships.  It illustrates that depression is common and manageable by taking some proactive steps and getting the right help.  Cognitive therapy has been proven as an effective way to manage depression.  When you add cognitive aspects into relationship work you can manage depression and include your partner in the healing process.  Many therapists treat depression individually.  If your partner is willing they can be taught how to participate in your recovery.  Either way, you don’t have to carry the “black dog” alone. [youtube http://youtu.be/vBjl7yqLWOw] Treatment for Anxiety and Depression at Confidential Care Professional Counseling Individual Therapy at Confidential Care Professional...

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Couples can learn to reconnect through empathy

Posted on Jan 23, 2014

Couples can learn to reconnect through empathy

Part of what I am trying to accomplish in my couples work is reconnection.   Couples can learn to reconnect by stepping into one anothers shoes and empathizing.  Empathy is a difficult concept for a lot of of people.  It’s also difficult to explain.  I really enjoyed this short clip by Brene’ Brown illustrating what empathy does and does not look like.  Empathy can take effort but when couples both work on learning the skill of empathizing they are able to recover from wounds in the relationship as well as from wounds in childhood....

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