Depression

Therapy, Everyone’s Doing It!

Posted on Apr 22, 2018

Long gone are the days where people feel ashamed and stigmatized for going to therapy. Therapy is no longer just for people with serious emotional issues.  Your neighbor down the street, your colleagues, even your doctors go to therapy. We all face life situations that are difficult to handle alone.  Therapy is a place to explore ongoing issues in your life and a place where you can focus 100% on yourself, practice self-care and work through pressing issues related to your career, family, friends, and balancing it all. You might not know that therapists are also excellent life coaches!  If you’re just needing some direction, support or accountability, your therapist does not have to go deep into your issues if you just want coaching. Here are some thing that therapy can offer: Unbiased Support: Having a support system is vital when maintaining life and mental health balance. Let’s be honest for a moment, friends and family are biased, and we sometimes disclose information about our relationships or other issues that can become problematic later on. In therapy, you don’t need a filter, you can say what you want and talk about how your partner, mom or boss made you feel during your last conversation without it coming back to you. We’ve all been there when we disclose personal, private information to our friend about our partner and it somehow comes back to you and can cause embarrassment for you or your partner. Save those conversations for therapy! Work out some heavy stuff:  Maybe you are struggling with an eating disorder or experienced a traumatic event that you are not ready to talk about to your loved ones but know you need to work on it or talk to someone because you are struggling emotionally to keep it all in. Therapy is a safe space for you to talk about the struggles that keep you up at night and how to cope and work on them. Your therapist will be able to talk through these issues with you, suggest coping skills, ways to practice self-care and over time experience less panic, anxiety or depression related to what you were first struggling with. Therapy is a tool that used correctly can help you better deal and cope with life’s most significant challenges, but for it to be successful, you have to commit and be open to the process. Our mental and physical health are equally important, and each needs time, care and attention. We have no problem going to the doctor when we have a sprained ankle, so we should feel the same when our mental health is a little off to call up our therapist and schedule a session. There is nothing wrong with taking care of your mental health. There is no reason to be ashamed, but you don’t have to wear a sign on your forehead either.  Therapy even if you’re doing coaching with your therapist is always confidential  ...

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Being On Your Loved Ones Side

Posted on Feb 18, 2018

  We all know the sinking feeling when someone does not support us, be it a friend, family member or partner. It is tough navigating a relationship when your partner is not on your side, it can leave us with hurt feelings, and ultimately, it can cause the relationship to end by making your partner shut down and loose trust.  Are you a supportive partner and take your partner’s side, or are you quick to blame and defend the source of pain for your partner? Granted, there are times when our partner’s choices may challenge us and our thinking, but having a healthy relationship means it is full of love, communication, and support. You don’t have to agree with your partner to be on their side. For example, someone you love is hurt by someone else that you love.  Do you defend the other person when your loved one shares their pain? Or do you validate their emotions and show empathy for their pain? Are you willing to show love by taking small actions to help them? It’s the difference between being on your partners side and having your loved ones back or making them feel unsupported, alone and defensive.. Another  example might be: your partner would like to purchase a new computer that is expensive and the repairs are more costly if it breaks. You suggest a computer that is a fraction of the price as you think it is smarter to put the extra money towards something else. The less expensive computer may not have all the bells and whistles, but it may not functions the way your partner needs it to. You partner goes ahead and purchases the expensive computer, and after using it for a month, the computer crashes and needs repairs. In this situation do you point the finger and say “I told you so” or do you offer a lending ear and listen to what your partner needs? Your response to this situation will tell your partner if you are supportive of them or willing to be on their side.. It is entirely understandable if you are upset  that your partner spent extra money on a computer.  At the same time being in a relationship means we need to sometimes put our opinions aside and listen and help people we love. If you tend to point fingers and say- “I told you so” this will automatically put your partner in a place of defensiveness. Over time your partner will learn not to come to you when they are experiencing challenges which can lead to a lack of trust and intimacy. Next time your partner comes to you with a challenge they are experiencing, listen to what they have to say and be conscious of your reaction- Do you show love to your partner by being on their side? If you and your partner are struggling to understand each other’s perspective, it may be time to go to couples counseling. In counseling, the therapist will help you and your partner to understand how better to support each other and, ultimately, be on your partner’s side.  ...

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Depression, Survive it

Posted on Aug 19, 2014

Depression, Survive it

I continue to be saddened by the recent death of Robin Williams.  Not only because of the huge loss of one who brought so much laughter to so many, but because his death is one more example of the devastation caused by the illness of depression.  There was a time when the word cancer was whispered in secret because no one understood it.  Likewise, the illness of depression.  It is too often an illness suffered in secretiveness, a hidden illness.  It’s not necessary that those suffering with depression, anxiety or bipolar disorder be public about it.  It is critical that people suffering with emotional disorders get professional help privately and that they commit to suicide not being an option along with having a plan about what to do if thoughts and feelings become overwhelming.  Depression can be deadly.  Encourage people you love to get treatment, get treatment for yourself for the people who love you. Treatment for Anxiety and Depression at Confidential Care Professional Counseling Individual Therapy at Confidential Care Professional...

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Depression in relationships

Posted on Feb 4, 2014

Depression in relationships

This is a wonderful analogy that describes symptoms of depression and how it can affect your life and relationships.  It illustrates that depression is common and manageable by taking some proactive steps and getting the right help.  Cognitive therapy has been proven as an effective way to manage depression.  When you add cognitive aspects into relationship work you can manage depression and include your partner in the healing process.  Many therapists treat depression individually.  If your partner is willing they can be taught how to participate in your recovery.  Either way, you don’t have to carry the “black dog” alone. [youtube http://youtu.be/vBjl7yqLWOw] Treatment for Anxiety and Depression at Confidential Care Professional Counseling Individual Therapy at Confidential Care Professional...

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Best Video about Depression

Posted on Jan 8, 2013

This is a wonderful short video description of what it’s like to have depression.  It helps give the symptoms clarity in a simple way.  If you suffer with depression please know that it is a medical issue that is treatable.  It’s important to me that my clients feel comfortable getting help from the first phone call through the graduation from treatment. Having knowledge about what your dealing with can really increase your comfort. What Is Depression? Let This Animation With A Dog Shed Light On It. http://www.upworthy.com/what-is-depression-let-this-animation-with-a-dog-shed-light-on-it?c=ufb1 Things that matter. Pass ’em on. Treatment for Anxiety and Depression at Confidential Care Professional Counseling Individual Therapy at Confidential Care Professional...

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