Did you know that 50% of most marriages will end in divorce or separation? When you enter your marriage, you don’t foresee having to go through this challenge.
With summer approaching, kids should be having times that are full of fun and freedom all day long. For divorced and separated families, this can be a time of uncertainty full of stress, sadness, and anxiety.
Co-parenting can be a tricky situation to deal with and it isn’t easy. Follow these three divorce coaching tips to make sure your child has the same stability, security, and love that they need to succeed.
What Is Co-Parenting?
It’s important to know what successful co-parenting is so that you can avoid issues in the family and make sure your kids’ needs are met. Having both parents actively involved will help build the quality of relationships between children and parents. This all boils over to children having healthy mental and physical health.
Co-parenting is when both parents are able to make shared decisions and overcome the challenges of working with their ex in order for the child’s well-being. If you do this, your child will likely feel more secure and have better self-esteem.
1. See a Divorce Coach
This may seem like an obvious piece of advice, but this is number one for advice on how to successfully co-parent. This will give your child the organization and structure to build realistic expectations for your future. They can help both sides of the party feel supported and hold each other accountable.
If you find yourself searching “divorce coach near me” there are great options at your disposal. We can help you start to think about the things you need to do. Finding an amicable way to divorce is the foundation of raising children between two homes.
If you have not been lucky enough to have an amicable divorce, a co-parenting coach can help people co-parent without hate and agony. Most importantly a coach can help keep negative feelings from damaging your children.
2. Respect All Parties Involved
While these can be the hardest times of a person’s life, divorce is not fun for either side involved. Try to remember to treat everyone with respect and be considerate.
It can be easy to want to not include an ex in school, family, or church events but it’s most likely best for the child if both parents are there. Try not to discuss differences of opinion in front of the children.
3. Make The Transition Easy
It can be difficult having to move from one household to another. While each time there is a reunion between the child and parent, there is also a goodbye. This can be hard no matter the time spent apart. Here are a few things to keep in mind:
- Try to drop off the child rather than pick them up, that way you don’t interrupt a special moment
- Pack before departure day so they don’t forget anything and have more time
- Make a clear schedule so that your children know what to expect
Help Your Child Today
Every child needs loving and stable parents. Just because your marriage ended doesn’t mean the family ends too, and your parental obligations are still just as important.
Find therapy or someone with a divorce coach certification who can help you undergo the process of successfully restructuring your family.
Linda Miller-deBerard, LCSW offers counseling & therapy in Colleyville, TX including personalized online services (telehealth) for all Texas residents.
Call (817) 909-1820 today for a free consultation.