Tips For Recovering from an Argument





It can be hard to reconnect after a disagreement or fight with your partner, even if you have worked together to resolve the issue.

Keep in mind; it takes time to reconnect with your partner after an argument. There is no right amount of time, just trust your emotions and continue to communicate with your partner. Here are a few tips for reconnecting with your partner after a disagreement.

Give them space: If your partner tells you they need space after an argument, even if the issue has been resolved, respect their time and give them space. Some people are more shaken than others during an argument, and they need time to regroup their emotions and focus. It may take a few hours or a few days for someone to come around, just know they are taking the time for their mental well being and will reconnect with you when the time is right.

Communicate: Shutting your partner off or giving them the silent treatment is called stonewalling and can damage the relationship. Be mindful of how you are communicating with your partner after an argument, show them you care by not shutting them out and continue to talk about your day-to-day life. You don’t have to discuss the issue until both of you are ready but in the mean time be cordial, kind and respectful.

Show compassion: Be kind and courteous and respectful towards your partner. After an argument, you and your partner may feel disconnected, and it may not feel right to be particularly loving.  Doing something nice for your partner that is a random act of kindness, like buying them their favorite ice cream, flowers, or making a special dinner will show you care and help with reconnecting you to your partner.

Hit the reset button:  Try to leave the issue in the past and put your focus on the present and the future.

Seek help from a professional: Sometimes in relationships, we struggle with conflict resolution, and we may hold grudges after an argument towards our partners which can impact the relationship and future conflict resolution. If you are struggling with reconnecting with your partner, or with ongoing issues in your relationship reach out for help. A couples therapist will be able to work with you and your partner on conflict resolutions and improve coping skills that will work to improve the overall health of the relationship.

Reconnecting after a disagreement takes time. Focus on the good in your relationship and continue to respect each other’s boundaries, communicate, and speak your partner’s love language- all acts that will help to build trust in the relationship and reconnect you to your partner.



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